Why the (BLEEP) Can’t I Lose Weight?
April 29th, 2013 by Katie Morton
Today I’m going to review an eBook called Why the (BLEEP) Can’t I Lose Weight? Lose the Weight in Your Head, Shrink the Size of Your Ass by Lin M. Eleoff. When Lin asked me to review her book, my first thought was that I would love to repay a favor to her (and of course to ask her a favor when my book comes out – hint, hint, Lin!) I took a class of Lin’s back in the fall and she introduced me to the concept of loving yourself unconditionally. She urged the class to think about it.
Well, to be honest, I don’t think I heard another word of her class past that moment. Sorry Lin, please don’t come over here and kick my @$$. But as a result of Lin’s planting that term – loving yourself unconditionally – in my head, I’ve done a lot of research and I’ve created a lot of exercises around the topic of unconditional self-love (available soon for your benefit), which has been instrumental in my ditching wine, losing weight, and moving forward with my business. So thank you, Lin. Taking Lin’s class was a big turning point for me, and so, all joking aside, it’s truly an honor to review her book for you today.
As I began to read Lin’s book, my next thought was that Lin has been sneaking peeks at my computer files and plagiarizing my notes! I kid – she lives somewhere in New England. I don’t know which state. It’s irrelevant except to say that we live in different states, so she’s not stealing my stuff. But Lin and I do preach a very similar message. Lin dishes hers out with a sarcastic side of butt-kicking while I am more likely to stroke your hair and try to (s)mother you. But at the end of the day, we both tell you to own your power.
Lin and I are also very similar in that we help people who are focused on outside distractions. Lin focuses primarily on food and weight loss, while I help those who dabble in any and all numbing agents: food, booze, internet, shopping, unhealthy obsessions with Dutch tulips or fuzzy slippers, you name it.
My favorite quote from Lin’s book is this:
“Food can’t make you fat any more than a pen can make you write.”
We ascribe all kinds of meaning and power to our numbing agents. For me, when I go all unconscious about it, food can mean distraction from uncomfortable truths or feelings. Comfort. Entertainment. Bonding with others. But the reality is, as Lin so eloquently points out in her book, food is just food. It doesn’t outwit you and climb into your mouth. It doesn’t do anything. It’s an inanimate object. But we sure like to pretend it’s magical and diabolical and that it definitely has fairy wings and free will.
Lin also points out that it’s our unhelpful beliefs (not circumstances outside of us) that so often drive our negative behaviors and our struggles. Your feelings are often trying to tell you something, and it’s NOT, “Eat the doughnut.” The hard part is staying with yourself long enough to tease out the thoughts behind your feelings.
Oftentimes we harbor these insanely destructive thoughts, which trigger these nasty-gram feelings, and our knee-jerk reaction is to NUMB! STAT! But if we always ignore ourselves, we never get to the bottom of this crap.
All of this to say, in a very narcissistic way, I loved Lin’s book because it reminds me so much of my own messages. Bottom line: what Lin has to say is true and it works.